ThetaHealing for "No Dramas"

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We are sitting in a natural chaotic state of transition on our planet between the old and new. This is uncomfortable for the ego and we will witness tensions mount as people deal with shock, overwhelm, and uncertainty. Given our programmed tendency to seek energies of love, approval, recognition, and various needs through other people, the growing intensity of the chaos will also amplify our attempts to pull these energies in our direction and maintain control. But if you understand the dynamics of control, you don’t need to be a party to any drama. Instead of operating from fear, you can stand in your authentic power no matter what takes place around you.

If you own your power there is no need to look elsewhere to get it, but if you unconsciously believe you are lacking in power your ego will attempt to manipulate energies to get your needs met. There are four ways people try to obtain control; two are aggressive and two are passive. We use all of them at one time or another under different circumstances, but usually one predominantly.

Most familiar in the aggressive pattern is the intimidator whose intention is to make you feel anxious. The moment you are afraid you give your power to him/her. The other aggressive form of obtaining control is the interrogator who monitors you and asks a lot of questions, making you feel insecure.

Aggressiveness is often matched with passiveness. The most familiar passive response is the victim; the person who more obviously presents helplessness and powerlessness. However, this person is also attempting to obtain power by eliciting sympathy. If you are hooked by this “poor me” s/he has managed to take your power. The other passive form of control is to be aloof. When a person withdraws, physically or emotionally, s/he is “forcing” you to go after them. If you follow, s/he has your power.

These dramas are common but not healthy; looking outside of yourself for the source of your power is compromising your self-worth and perpetuating every-man-for-himself mentality rather than interacting with the intention of understanding and mutual support.  

Dramas can be avoided if you are conscious of your energy and power. To become aware whether you are caught in a drama, pay attention to your feelings; feeling stuck, confused, afraid, or defensive is a clue. If you can name it you have more choice to transform your reaction into non-judgment and neutrality. You can also draw the other person’s attention to their own behaviour. For example, you may say to the intimidator, “Why are you trying to make me afraid of you?” In many cases, the person who is trying to take your power is not necessarily conscious of their behaviour, especially during a heated discussion when the fear of losing control is at its height. Once you put the truth out in the open, the hidden agenda of competing for energy is exposed.

Keeping your neutrality is a practice. It’s never too late to start, and energy psychotherapy and theta healing can help you to understand the control pattern you developed as a child with your parents, which subconsciously drives your interactions today. You can let go of the limiting beliefs that define your insecurities and need for false power. You can restore your inner strength and assuredness to keep you in your centre.

No dramas in life translate to inner peace. Will you be one of the people to live it day-to-day? You are powerful and everything you need is within you – no matter what is happening around you. Be the peace.

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For more information, case studies and testimonials visit www.MelindaUrban.com or call 613-253-2888. Amâeil is an experienced, intuitive, energy psychotherapist, and a master at unraveling the confusion in your concerns to heal the root cause. She teaches self-empowerment through your own inner wisdom. Appointments in person or by phone.